2. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner praises and compliments you frequently and honestly.
3. It might be healthy, real love it your love partner doesn’t put you down or make demeaning, degrading or devaluing statements about you to you or to others.
4. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner is protective of you but not overprotective.
5. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner strongly supports your growth, development and advancement, and does not act to hold you back, suppress or repress you.
6. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner is understanding and tolerant of your mistakes, foibles and unsuccessful efforts.
7. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner supports your efforts to love the people you love.
8. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner enjoys seeing you enjoy life.
9. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner actively helps you with your interests and nurtures your cherished involvements.
10. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner lovingly touches you back when you give a loving touch.
11. It might be healthy, real love if what is important to you is important to your love partner just because it’s important to you.
12. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner shares their emotions with you and wants the same from you.
13. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner treats you democratically and as an equal.
14. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner treats you with honesty even when it might lead to difficulty.
15. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner frequently is joyous about loving you and being loved by you.
16. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner keeps desiring to know all about you – your current thoughts, feelings, actions, hopes, plans, dreams, preferences and all that’s special about you.
17. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner enjoys having ‘emotional intercourse’ as well as sexual intercourse with you.
18. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner wants to help you achieve your wants as much as they want to achieve theirs.
19. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner is not sexually selfish.
20. It might be healthy, real love if your love partner is seldom indifferent to you.
21. It be healthy, real love if when ‘making love’ mutual pleasuring is more important than performance.
22. It might be healthy, real love if you and your love partner clearly and easily ask each ask each other for what is wanted, instead of relying on hints, ‘mind reading’, or the false idea that love gives magic, automatic knowledge.
As Always, Go and Grow with Love
Dr. J. Richard Cookerly
Which of these statements grab your attention the most; and what do you suppose that is telling you?
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